justsomethoughts

I feel like nowadays everyone has this obsession with being palatable to another person, and I can’t understand where this obsession started. When did we as humans start judging an entire entity on its outer appearance rather than looking at a person as a whole? Actually, I don’t know why I said that because being attractive has always been like a currency. Speaking historically, women have been known to go through extreme discomfort, like poisonous face powder, foot binding, etc but in my opinion those measures was taken to survive, that was when a woman’s life was dependent on the time of man she married. I guess that being attractive has always been of great importance to humans.

Everyone is talking about appearance and how it can serve other people, like finding a husband and looking more palatable to be in certain spaces. So they let go of personal styles in order to kind of serve society, and I think that’s okay when it serves you, but conforming to serve others is just a waste because one thing I have come to learn is that nobody really cares or people either care to much (there is no middle ground), you know? I mean, if the hyperfixation helps you get something you want, then go for it, but if it gets in the way of you being able to be yourself, then it’s like wearing a costume and acting some performance anytime you leave the house. I guess that’s why I’m not that impressed with the elegant or old money aesthetic or the influencers that teach you how to get a “rich man” it feels kind of performative to me.

I recently shaved my head because I too had a hyper fixation on my looks, and it was all I was able to focus on. If I didn’t see what I wanted in the mirror, it would have ruined my day, and I hated that I felt that way, like my entire worth lied within how I looked. So I shaved my head. And letting go of my hair and not conforming to what society believes is attractive has been extremely freeing. And I challenge you to do the same because when you let go of how people perceive your appearance, you find that there is so much more to yourself than that, and that maybe you overlooked yourself and put it in a bubble. I still take care of myself and still do makeup sometimes because I like it, but I no longer stand in the mirror and criticize what I see. Instead, I journal and think about the things that I am interested in.

I know this sounds cliché and like something you have heard before, but I truly believe being beautiful lies in the energy you have within you and that you give to others. I think people can see your energy, and when you have good energy, good people will see that. Being alone can be hard sometimes, but it’s not a death sentence. I’d rather be alone for the rest of my life than be surrounded by bad energy that brings me down or even worse, being around people that will turn my energy dark. Try and focus on you as a whole rather than just your appearance.